Comments on: How do I talk to him (Long story)? http://hurricanequestions.com/how-do-i-talk-to-him-long-story.htm Tue, 22 May 2012 17:45:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Clobo http://hurricanequestions.com/how-do-i-talk-to-him-long-story.htm/comment-page-1#comment-8546 Clobo Fri, 19 Feb 2010 04:48:56 +0000 http://hurricanequestions.com/how-do-i-talk-to-him-long-story.htm#comment-8546 Okay, well I've read your story, and I'm siding with you. He isn't use to kids, obviously, and you are right about the whole, clean up after them and move on, they are just kids. If he can't accept that and learn to adapt, then it's not going to work for him or you. And another thing is that he's using the financial problem to try to control you and follow his rules, that's not a good thing. You could of told him about having your sister over, I think the reason he was mad was because you didn't tell him, but he shouldn't get mad because they are being loud, that's how a famiy is! Since he was an only child, he's probably use to just a quiet family, but he needs to learn that it's not like that with you in your life, and if he wants to be a part of it, he's going to have to adapt. It almost sounds like he isn't ready to move on with his life and isn't ready for this, I mean, was he just planning to live with his parents for the rest of his life? And you, you are the responsible and down to earth one, you know how REAL life is. He doesn't because he's never been out there. I would sit him down and ask him before he says anything that he's not allowed to raise his voice, and then talk to him about this. Tell him that you love him but these little things he gets so upset about are eating the relationship away, and that you are listening to his side but it can't be like that all the time, because that's just life. Kids make messes, cats jump on the table sometimes, and kids can eat PB&Js for lunch! If he can't accept that, then he can't accept you. I know you love him, but don't sell yourself short, you got this(: PS: Hope you guys were safe when Fay hit. I know how Florida can get smashed with those storms. Best wishes to you and your family. Update: Oh that's good, I moved from there so all my friends were filling me in. I remember when Hurricane Charley hit, it was pretty bad. Right on my birthday too, lol. Okay, well I’ve read your story, and I’m siding with you. He isn’t use to kids, obviously, and you are right about the whole, clean up after them and move on, they are just kids. If he can’t accept that and learn to adapt, then it’s not going to work for him or you. And another thing is that he’s using the financial problem to try to control you and follow his rules, that’s not a good thing. You could of told him about having your sister over, I think the reason he was mad was because you didn’t tell him, but he shouldn’t get mad because they are being loud, that’s how a famiy is! Since he was an only child, he’s probably use to just a quiet family, but he needs to learn that it’s not like that with you in your life, and if he wants to be a part of it, he’s going to have to adapt. It almost sounds like he isn’t ready to move on with his life and isn’t ready for this, I mean, was he just planning to live with his parents for the rest of his life? And you, you are the responsible and down to earth one, you know how REAL life is. He doesn’t because he’s never been out there. I would sit him down and ask him before he says anything that he’s not allowed to raise his voice, and then talk to him about this. Tell him that you love him but these little things he gets so upset about are eating the relationship away, and that you are listening to his side but it can’t be like that all the time, because that’s just life. Kids make messes, cats jump on the table sometimes, and kids can eat PB&Js for lunch! If he can’t accept that, then he can’t accept you. I know you love him, but don’t sell yourself short, you got this(:

PS: Hope you guys were safe when Fay hit. I know how Florida can get smashed with those storms. Best wishes to you and your family.

Update: Oh that’s good, I moved from there so all my friends were filling me in. I remember when Hurricane Charley hit, it was pretty bad. Right on my birthday too, lol.

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